7 Things Never to Say to Your Boss

(Got this email from a friend and I thought it’s something that has nuggets of truth here and there)

Everyone has a boss. Even if you “work for yourself,” you’re still an employee to your client.

A big part of maintaining the boss-employee relationship is to never allow a boss to think you dislike your work, are incapable of doing it, or–worse–consider it beneath you.

These sound like no-brainers, but many statements heard commonly around the workplace violate these basic rules. Looking for an example? Here are seven heard in workplaces all the time. They may seem ordinary, even harmless. But try reading these from your boss’s point of view. You’ll see right away why it’s smart to never allow these seven sentences to pass your lips:

“That’s not my job.”
You know what? A lot of bosses are simple souls who think your job is to do what’s asked of you. So even if you’re assigned a task that is, indeed, not your job, refrain from saying so. Instead, try to find out why your boss is assigning you this task–there may be a valid reason. If you believe that doing the task is a bad idea (as in, bad for the company) you can try explaining why and suggesting how it could be better done by someone else. This may work, depending on the boss. In any case, remember that doing what’s asked of you, even tasks outside your job description, is good karma.

“It’s not my problem.”
When people say something is not their problem it makes them look like they don’t care. This does not endear them to anybody, especially the boss. If a problem is brewing and you have nothing constructive to say, it’s better to say nothing at all. Even better is to pitch in and try to help. Because, ultimately, a problem in the workplace is everyone’s problem. We’re all in it together.

“It’s not my fault.”
Yet another four words to be avoided. Human nature is weird. Claiming that something is not our fault often has the result of making people suspect it is. Besides, what’s the real issue here? It’s that something went wrong and needs to be fixed. That’s what people should be thinking about–not who is to blame.

“I can only do one thing at a time.”
News flash: Complaining you are overworked will not make your boss feel sorry for you or go easier on you. Instead, a boss will think: (1) you resent your job, and/or (2) you aren’t up to your job. Everybody, especially nowadays, feels pressured and overworked. If you’re trying to be funny, please note that some sarcasm is funny and lightens the mood. Some just ticks people off.

“I am way overqualified for this job.”
Hey, maybe you are. But the fact is, this is the job you have. You agreed to take it on and, while you may now regret that decision, it’s still your job. Complaining that it’s beneath you only makes you look bad. Plus, coworkers doing similar jobs may resent and dislike you. And guess what? Bosses will not think, “Oh, this is a superior person whom I need to promote.” Nope, they’ll think, “What a jerk.”

“This job is easy! Anyone could do it!”
Maybe what you’re trying to convey here is that you’re so brilliant your work is easy. Unfortunately, it comes off sounding more like, “This work is stupid.” Bosses don’t like hearing that any work is stupid. Nor do they really like hearing that a job is easy peasy. It belittles the whole enterprise. If a task is simple, be glad and do it as quickly as you can. Even “stupid” work needs to get done.

“It can’t be done.”
Saying something can’t be done is like waving a red flag in a boss’s eyes. Even if the thing being suggested truly is impossible, saying it is can make you look ineffectual or incapable. Better to play detective. Why is the boss asking you to do whatever it is? What’s the problem that needs to be solved? What’s the goal? Search for doable ways of solving that problem or reaching that goal. That’s what bosses really want. Most of them do not expect the impossible.

Last words: When in doubt, remember that silence really is golden.


The Stranger

(Got this from my girl, thought it’s worth reading. I absolutely love the twist in the end. =) Enjoy.)

A few years after I was born, my Dad met a stranger who was new to our small Texas town. From the beginning, Dad was fascinated with this enchanting newcomer and soon invited him to live with our family. The stranger was quickly accepted and was around from then on.

As I grew up, I never questioned his place in my family. In my young mind, he had a special niche. My parents were complementary instructors: Mom taught me good from evil, and Dad taught me to obey. But the stranger…he was our storyteller. He would keep us spellbound for hours on end with adventures, mysteries and comedies.

If I wanted to know anything about politics, history or science, he always knew the answers about the past, understood the present and even seemed able to predict the future! He took my family to the first major league ball game. He made me laugh, and he made me cry the stranger never stopped talking, but Dad didn’t seem to mind..

Sometimes, Mom would get up quietly while the rest of us were shushing each other to listen to what he had to say, and she would go to the kitchen for peace and quiet. (I wonder now if she ever prayed for the stranger to leave.)

Dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions, but the stranger never felt obligated to honor them. Profanity, for example, was not allowed in our home… Not from us, our friends or any visitors. Our longtime visitor, however, got away with four-letter words that burned my ears and made my dad squirm and my mother blush. My Dad didn’t permit the liberal use of alcohol. But the stranger encouraged us to try it on a regular Basis. He made cigarettes look cool, cigars manly and pipes distinguished.
He talked freely (much too freely!) about sex. His comments were sometimes blatant sometimes suggestive, and generally embarrassing.

I now know that my early concepts about relationships were influenced strongly by the stranger. Time after time, he opposed the values of my parents, yet he was seldom rebuked…. And NEVER asked to leave.

More than fifty years have passed since the stranger moved in with our family. He has blended right in and is not nearly as fascinating as he was at first. Still, if you could walk into my parents’ den today, you would still find him sitting over in his corner, waiting for someone to listen to him talk and watch him draw his pictures.
His name?…

We just call him ‘TV.’

He has a wife now….We call her ‘Computer.’


A Shitty Article

Forgive me for the crude way of putting the title of this article, but I think the word ‘feces’ is probably too formal and polite for the normal, average Malaysian to understand. =) This everyday, familiar subject matter is coined to be my favourite table topic during dinners by many people although I do not understand why. By the way, I am very healthy…


The Paradox of Life

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller building but shorter tempers, wider freeways but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge but less judgment, more experts yet more problems, more medicine but less wellness. We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too little and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom but not our prejudice. We write more but learn less. We plan more but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.

Remember, spend more time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent. Remember, to say “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

And always remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breaths away.


Using The “Bah” Word Accurately

Got this from Emmanuel’s blog and I thought Malaysians should be educated on how to use the word “Bah” from Sabah correctly. DISCLAIMER : This post is in Bahasa Melayu. So if you do not understand, I guess you’ll need to buy a new dictionary. =)

Mari kita tengok penggunaan “BAH” yang betul. Salah satu penggunaan kata yang membezakan Bahasa Melayu Sabah dengan Bahasa Melayu piawai, ialah kata tambah “-bah” yang sering diguna dalam percakapan. Kata tambah “-bah” mempunyai fungsi seperti berikut:

1)Kata penyudah untuk menguatkan ekspresi kata
Contoh ayat:
Ya bah. – Yalah.

2)Kata tambah pemula untuk memulakan percakapan. Selalunya digunakan pada permulaan kata.
Contoh ayat:
Bah, kamu pigi lah dulu – (Saya menjawab -Kamu pergilah dulu).

3)Memberi maksud sudah, atau penghabis kata. Pengganti dalam bahasa Melayu ialah “Baiklah”, atau “Begitulah”.
Contoh ayat:
BM Sabah: “Boy, nanti ko pigi beli beras di kadai sana.” Boy menjawab, “Bah.”
BM piawai: “Boy, nanti pergi beli beras di kedai.”Boy menjawab, “Baiklah”

4)Untuk menegur atau menyapa orang. Lazimnya org sabah akan menyebut “Bah” bila berselisih dengan orang yang dikenali untuk tujuan menyapa orang tersebut.
Contoh-contoh ayat:
1.”Ko orang KL bah kan?”
2.”Sejuk bah ni air”
3.”Awal lagi bah ni”

Masyarakat sabah memang sinonim dgn perkataan “BAH” yang begitu unik. Tetapi perkataan “BAH” ini sering disalah ertikan oleh masyarakat selain Sabah. Mari kita menghayati dan renungi penyalahgunaan “BAH” dalam ayat-ayat ini:

1. “apa kabar bah?”-kononnya mau tanya khabar. (Ini salah)
2. “suda makan ka bah?” (Aneh….)
3. “bila balik bah?” (Tdk btul jg ni)

Oleh itu, marilah bersama-sama menggunakan Bahasa Sabah dengan betul, jangan memalukan diri anda dengan kononnya menggunakan Bahasa Sabah tetapi sebenarnya salah.

Lagi… Bahasa Sabah And Bahasa Indon are TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS.. yg terindon 2 ndak taulaa???